What Is the Purpose of Life? (Hint: It’s Simpler Than You Think)

Episode 285

What Is the Purpose of Life? (Hint: It’s Simpler Than You Think)

So, what is the purpose of life? Today, I want to help you answer that question by asking you to consider a couple of others: 

What if the purpose of life isn’t about achieving or attaining anything? What if you already have the most important thing you’ve been searching for? 

I want to help you to discover the true purpose of your life and realize that you may already have what you’ve been searching for, for your entire life.

Hal Elrod

If you don't have self-love, nothing else matters. If you have self-love, nothing else is needed.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Why keeping good habits, achieving goals, and professional success are often just the tip of the iceberg – and how to focus on the foundation underneath. 
  • The reason highly successful people don’t feel free despite how much money they make – and what they’re really looking for.
  • Why birth and death remind us of the true purpose of life – and the reason we often forget this in-between. 
  • How to stop comparing yourself to other people and experience true, unconditional self-love – even in moments of profound adversity.

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Hal Elrod

You can't make freedom dependent on something outside of you.

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Hal: Goal achievers, hey, it’s Hal Elrod. Welcome to another episode of the Achieve Your Goals Podcast, soon to have a new name going into 2020. What will that name be? It’s probably going to have the word miracle in it. I could tell you that much. It’ll probably be The Miracle Life Podcast but it’s not for sure. It might be The Miracle Message. I don’t know. I think it’s going to be The Miracle Life Podcast though. That is the kind of the next book that I have in my heart and The Miracle Life, the four pillars of that concept or love yourself as you are, see yourself as you can be, create the life you deserve, and help others do the same. And I feel like I’m looking at my life that has been those are like the four themes is learning how to love myself as I am, and see myself as better than I’ve ever been before, and then really everyday work on creating the best life that I can imagine for myself, the life that I feel like we all deserve and then actively paying it forward in helping other people to do the same in their life. And I feel like if we all kind of live our lives with those four pillars, we’ll be happy, we’ll be fulfilled. We will have great relationships. We will be healthy. We will have freedom and live a life of liberation if you will. 

 

So, that’s the direction that we are heading, but I’m terrible. I’m not the most decisive person so I’m always like I’ve got ideas but I’m not exactly sure what it’s going to look like. So, today, we’re going to talk about the purpose of life, and this is obviously a very loaded topic, a serious topic. It could be a controversial topic. It could be a topic that depending on who you ask, on which day or there could be a lot of different perspectives as to the purpose of life and so we’re going to examine only one. I’ll start with the disclaimer. I only know what I know. I know my truth. I know my experience. I don’t have it all figured out for sure and I just am sharing with you from my perspective and what my truth is, in my experience, hopefully, something that will be universal for you and that will be useful to you. But what’s most useful is always to find your truth and the way to do that I think is to keep asking, keep learning, keep exploring, and most important, keep applying what you learn and then seeing how it makes you feel, seeing how it works out, seeing if it’s true for you and some of it will be and some of it won’t be. 

 

But the only way to really know which is which, is to apply it to integrate it fully into your life, truth, wisdom, perspective, and see how it feels. Is it aligned with your truth also known as your values, your philosophies, your strategies for living your life’s purpose? But the question is, what is your life’s purpose? What is the purpose of life? And this, by the way, comes from the most recent Quantum Leap Mastermind. Last week I was with 40 plus members of the Quantum Leap Mastermind which is the mastermind that John Berghoff and I cohost together, and we meet together in person and we do some pretty extraordinary things. I’m not going to commercial right now for that. You actually can if you want to get more info, you can go to QLMMastermind.com. So, there’s two Ms there in the middle. QLMMastermind.com if you want to figure out or learn more about the mastermind and spend some time with these people. 

 

They’re the closest circle of you can say The Miracle Morning Community, those folks that we actually spend the most time with and it really is it’s become like a family. We cried together, we laughed together, we meditated together, we hiked together, we asked questions of billionaire Jeff Hoffman together on how to grow a billion-dollar business. I mean, it was special. But the point is, I was preparing a message for our mastermind numbers for the QLM Mastermind and it was a business message. It was like a peek behind the curtain where I was spending a couple hours going, “How did I grow my business and what does my business look like?” I really broke it down and wanted to show everybody here’s how we grew it. Here are the mistakes we’ve made. Here are the mistakes we’re still making. Here’s the direction that we’re going. And as I was preparing that message, I got really clear or I should say I was inspired to talk about other than business, the purpose of life. 

 

And I thought if we don’t have the purpose of life figured out, all this business stuff, it doesn’t really matter. That’s all just details but it doesn’t really matter if we don’t have the purpose of life, like the core meaning of our lives and why we’re here and why we’re doing everything that we’re doing. Kamal Ravikant who is the author of the book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, one of my favorite books, in fact, I’ll probably reference it today again but he has a quote. He said, “Habits and goals and success are just details, the tip of the iceberg. What matters is the foundation, the stillness below the surface, the truth inside living it. The rest is just a natural byproduct.” So, we’re going to dive into that foundation today. Maybe you’ve asked yourself questions, or I should ask, “Have you asked yourself questions like what is the purpose of life or what is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? 

 

And you might even go as far as I know I’ve asked myself this one. I had cancer and just different times of it. Does my life even matter in the scheme of things? If I weren’t here, life would go on. The planet would go on like do I really even matter? I think that many of us have asked or even struggled with those types of questions at one point or another, and so, today I want to dive in and here’s the interesting thing. I love for you to consider this. This is where we’re going to go. I’m going to share examples for my own life, but I really want to make this as universal and about you and not about me as possible. So, what if the purpose of life isn’t about you doing anything or achieving anything or attaining anything? What if the purpose of your life is simpler than you could’ve ever imagined? In fact, what if you already have what you’ve been searching for? What if you’ve spent your entire life? And when I say you, by the way, I mean we. What if we have spent our entire lives working towards something that’s already available to us right now, right now, and always, infinite, always available to us? We’re searching for it, we’re working for it, we’re looking for it. 

 

So, when it comes to life’s purpose, your life’s purpose or universally the purpose of life, I used to think that I had it figured out like I used to think that it’s interesting that they say the more you learn, the more you realize you have to learn and I think when I was younger and naïve, I thought I had more figured out than I actually had figured out and maybe I had some figured out but there was indefinitely remains more that I don’t yet understand, more that I have to learn, more that I have to apply, more that I have to experience in order for my truth to continue emerging, evolving, and expanding. It is life. Our entire lives we will never know everything. We will never experience everything. That’s part of the beauty of life is we’re on this journey to learn and to grow and to be and to experience. I’ll give you an example of when I used to think I had things figured out. I used to think money equals freedom and I think I’m sure I’ve obviously didn’t invent that. I read that somewhere. I am sure I was reading a book or I don’t remember where but I’m sure I heard that, “Oh, yeah, money equals freedom.” 

 

If you have money, then you can have freedom to do things that you want and spend time the way you want and buy things that you want or travel if you want or eat any foods that you want. And while that is all true, I think there’s truth in all of that, I’m now beginning to realize how limited that particular philosophy is. Sure. Having enough money gives you freedom that from the burdens that not having enough money cause, but I’m not sure that money equals the kind of freedom that we all deeply want and spend a large part of our lives working towards and yet never finding it. Because I know, and whether you know them personally, or you’ve seen him on TV, I know people who have millions of dollars, even billions of dollars, yet they live in constant fear of losing their money, but are they really free? Is that freedom? For me, I deal with that all the time like, “Oh gosh, another economic crash could be coming and what if I lost everything in 2008? What if that happens again?” I’m living in fear. So, is money, does that really equal the kind of freedom that we want? 

 

And I think an important lesson, now I’m on a little bit of a tangent here. This is not the purpose of life, but there’s context here. One of the things is you can’t make freedom dependent on something outside of you. And if money doesn’t equal the kind of freedom we really want, well, the question will be what kind of freedom do we all want? And I really believe that the freedom to experience joy in every moment of our lives. You can swap the word joy out with any other word that love or God or gratitude. Whatever, it could be another word, but we’ll just say joy, that feeling of like, “I’m so happy. I feel so good. I’m on cloud nine.” I believe that’s the freedom that we want is the freedom to experience that, that just feeling good. Just call it feeling good, feeling good. Isn’t that why we’re doing everything that we’re doing so that we can enjoy our lives? So, what are we all doing this for? What really matters? 

 

Again, where we’re going to end up today is what is the purpose of life and the neat thing is it’s already available to you. You don’t have to work for it. You don’t have to strive for it. I know I’m playing a little bit of possum here and I’m not directly saying it upfront, but we are going to get there probably in the next few minutes, but you think what’s the purpose for our life and exploring the money example. Is it to make money like okay for what? Why are we going to make more money? Well, so we can buy nicer things or have freedom. And as we talked about, well, is that the kind of freedom that you really, really want? And so many people that make a lot of money aren’t free and, by the way, I think the reason that that’s in my head is our last episode that we did I think it was last week’s episode was with Moneeka Sawyer, and it was can money really buy happiness? So, I’m kind of like piggybacking on that a little bit. 

 

But I feel like I’m getting more clarity in the purpose of life and the ironic part is it’s already been taught, written about for thousands of years, for thousands of years, yet we don’t seem to fully get it right. We don’t fully get it and here it is. All right. No more playing possum. What is the purpose of life? It is to experience love, L-O-V-E. The purpose of life is to experience love and I invite you to consider that we’re reminded of this at birth, and again at death, but we seem to forget during most of the time in between also known as life. At birth, most parents can tell you and, by the way, my sister is in labor right now in California so like I’m really present to this but at birth, most parents will tell you that when their child is born, they experienced a love that was beyond anything that we’ve ever experienced before and even imagined possible. Like I know for my daughter, Sophie, was born I was like, “I didn’t know you could love this much this deeply, this profoundly like I didn’t know that kind of life. I didn’t know that love. I didn’t know what I didn’t know.” 

 

So, at birth, we’re reminded that love is what life is about. I mean, at death you probably read or heard, as I have that we realize what really matters and it wasn’t the money or the significance or the achievements that we worked our entire lives for. It was the love that we had all along, the love that we were born with. And consider that everything we do is actually just a vehicle to experience more of what is already available to us in abundance. I’ll give you kind of some examples. Look at relationships or connection. Connection or relationship really just a vehicle for us to experience more of what we really want, which is love. When your soul connects with another soul in a meaningful way, you get to experience love from someone else. Think of another example. For those of us who are focused on making an impact in the world and hopefully that’s all of us, but an impact or what I might call contribution is really just another vehicle for us to experience what we really want, which is love. 

 

Because think about it, when we contribute, we finally give ourselves permission to love ourselves for contributing. We think, “Wow.” You might not think of it consciously. We rarely think of it consciously but think about what’s actually happening. You contribute. You help someone else. They feel the love that you shared through your contribution and then you get to experience self-love. You get to feel good that you contributed and you help someone else and now you’re simply experiencing what you really want, which is love. You’re giving yourself permission to love yourself but self-love is available to us all the time. I quoted Kamal Ravikant and I hope I’m getting his last name right but author of one my favorite books in the world, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. 

 

By the way, it’s one of the shortest books in the world. You can read it like an hour. It’s like $5 on Amazon for the paperback. I really recommend that book. In fact, being that the first part of the Miracle Life is love yourself as you are, probably my first guest in 2020 or one of the first guest if his schedule aligns is going to be Kamal because that foundational piece of loving yourself. If you don’t have self-love, nothing else matters. If you have self-love, nothing else is needed. Think about that for a second. If you fully love yourself and love your life, that’s what everything else was pointing towards anyway. That’s what you were doing everything else for is just to be able to live in the state of love. So, the idea is don’t make your, like I said earlier, don’t make your freedom dependent on something outside yourself. Don’t make your love dependent on something or someone outside yourself and this episode is not about self-love per se, meaning like we’re not going super deep on self-love, but I want to go deep enough for you to really improve in this area. 

 

This is an area when I read Kamal’s book, which was when I had cancer was a couple years ago, it was a radical eye-opening thing like I thought I was a really happy person, a grateful person, but I realize I didn’t love myself like I beat myself up mentally, emotionally. I looked in the mirror and I went, “Oh, my body is, you know, my nipples are too big and…” Sorry. That was too much information, but if you’ve ever seen a picture of my shirt off, my nipples are large and I’ve been insecure about that my whole life. And my chest, no matter how much I work out, my chest it just doesn’t look like the chest that I’ve seen in the magazines that I feel like it should look like and on and on and on. And then I had this real, I went, “How ridiculous is this that I’ve been working out…” and this is just one example of self-love but this example of looking in the mirror with my shirt off and I’m like, “I’ve been working out for over 20 years. I’ve been going to the gym and dedicating probably thousands of hours in the last 20 years to be physically fit.” and I’ll be very honest right, especially earlier. 

 

Now, I don’t care as much, but for sure when I was younger, it was vanity. It wasn’t for health. I wasn’t trying to make my abs – I wasn’t trying to get a six-pack and make my chest big for health. It was vanity. I’m trying to make myself look good like that period. That’s it. And I realized in that moment, and this was literally like in the last six months when I had this epiphany, I looked in the mirror and I realized I’ve been working out and working on my body for 20 years and I’ve never loved it. All I see when I look in the mirror at least up until that point is fault, is the nipples are too big, the chest isn’t big enough. I’m getting love handles. I’m too skinny after the chemo. I lost all that weight down to skinny and I want you to – this is actually a very, very, very important fundamental lesson that I’m about to share with you using this example is in that moment, I decided no more. No more am I going to find fault. 

 

Now, is it okay to look at areas that you could call it a fault because you want to improve in an area? Sure, but you can do that from a place of total and radical self-love where you go, “I love myself exactly as I am.” In that moment, I went, “You know what, I love my body,” and it felt weird to say it first but I’m like I love my body. I don’t love it because it looks like someone else’s body. I love it because, damn it, I work out like I feed my body the best food I possibly can, organic, plant-based during the day, you know, like maybe Paleo at night. That’s kind of simplifying it. I give my body the best nutrition I possibly can and almost every single day I exercise and now it’s for health. It was vanity back in the day and there’s a little bit of that. I want to look good for my wife mostly, but for the most part, I’m doing it I want to exercise. I want to expand my physical capacity, my stamina, my lung, on and on and on and I thought I love my body for those reasons, not because of how it looks compared to the guy in the Men’s Health Magazine because if my love is dependent on comparison and again, this is a fundamental lesson so consider this. If your love, if your self-love is dependent on comparison, comparing yourself to anyone else, well, then you’re never going to love yourself fully. 

 

Because if it’s dependent on comparison, there’s always somebody better than you in terms of there’s someone that’s smarter than me, that’s smarter than you. There’s someone that’s better looking than you or better looking than me relatively speaking. Now, I believe inherently, we all stand alone in isolation as this most beautiful human being on the planet. Again, the only thing that would make you anything other than the most beautiful human being on the planet is you comparing yourself to someone else and you creating a story that says, “Well, they’re more better, beautiful, smarter, perfect, more disciplined, more blah, blah, blah, blah,” whatever it is. So, your self-love can’t be dependent on comparison. And so, now actually, I’ll make one caveat to that. The only comparison is comparing yourself to the person that you know you can be in this moment, not in six months because that’s delusionary. It’s not six months from now. But the only way to compare yourself I think in a way is to go, “All right. I love myself as I am always, unconditionally.” 

 

When you experience that self-love that is the purpose of life and I think you can go back to religious text. You can go to the Bible. You can go to a lot of philosophical text where that’s what I meant when I said earlier, the irony in me just kind of realizing this over the last year is this has been talked about for all of time. I mean, since there was written language, it’s in writing. Go back to Confucius. Go back to the Scriptures. I mean, on and on and on. Even modern-day books like Kamal’s Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It like this is ancient wisdom, but we haven’t fully got it so it’s just being taught to us in different ways. So, here’s a couple things I would consider. So, I invite you to consider, first and foremost, what we’re talking about that the purpose of life, your life is love, and more specifically, it is to experience love I use the word joy earlier but again love, joy, it’s all the same, love in every moment. 

 

So, I invite you to consider it. I’m going to say it again. I want to hammer it home because I’ve heard this before. I hear it over and over again. The purpose of our life, your life, my life, life for us is to experience love each moment. That’s why we do everything we do. We’re trying to experience love. When I get more money, when I get a better job then I’ll love my life and I’ll love myself. Once I get a partner then I’ll have love from someone else. So, how do you experience love? I’m going to share a few different what I would call the love levels, so to speak. The love levels. Level 1, love of self and we just went in-depth on that so I won’t go a lot deeper and hopefully we’ll have Kamal on the podcast in the next few months, or start of 2020 and he can go really deep because that is his expertise and I encourage you to check out the book but Love Yourself Like You Like Depends On It. But love of self. That’s where we start. And that’s where we end and that is ultimately, I believe the foundation of love. 

 

And the second love level is really just a sublevel of the first. It’s love your life. Loving your life is an element of self-love. And when I say love your life, here’s what I mean. I mean love your life exactly as it is all the time and that doesn’t mean that you’re not trying to make it better. That doesn’t mean that there are things that you don’t like. You can dislike something and still love it. If you’ve ever been married, you can relate to that or just in general like your family, even if you’re married, if you have family, you can dislike someone in your family based on their behavior or something they say or do but you still love them. So, in the same way, you can dislike aspects of your life but still love your life because that’s what unconditional love is. I should mention that. The word unconditional is really important to this purpose of life. It’s unconditional love of yourself. You might not like parts of yourself, but you can love yourself globally, completely unconditionally. 

 

You might not like parts of your life, but you can love your life because you can be grateful for every moment because life is a miracle. Even when it sucks, it is still a miracle, and we can be grateful for every moment. I mentioned earlier I use my own life as an example. I think this is a pretty profound example. When I had cancer, I was given a 30% chance of living. The day I was diagnosed with cancer I thanked to God for my cancer. I expressed sincere gratitude. You might be wondering why in the hell would you think be grateful for your cancer, be grateful for being told you have a 30% chance of living? Well, first of all, that’s a whole another topic, but the idea that all emotional pain is caused by our resistance I’ve talked on it on past episodes so I accept life fully and part of accepting life fully is loving life as it is. That is true acceptance is loving everything as it is. That means you have fully accepted it. 

 

And for me, the gratitude was I’m thankful for this adversity that is cancer and how it’s going to serve me in ways that I really have no way of knowing. I just know that if I’m open to the benefits of this cancer journey, they will show themselves. I will learn. I will grow. So, when I had cancer and I was in physical, mental, and emotional pain, and even fearful for my life and leaving my kids and my wife. I mean, that was the scariest thing I’ve ever experienced. I was grateful for all of it and I was grateful every day for my cancer because everything is an opportunity for us to learn, to grow, and to become better than we’ve ever been before. So, even in the midst of our greatest adversity, it doesn’t change our unconditional love and I’ll use one other kind of I guess example or example is not quite the right word but think about how you – well, it just goes back to what I said earlier, I guess, how you love another person, you love your family, if you’re in a relationship or you’re married, you love your significant other, even though at times, the relationship presents adversity. So, it’s kind of a metaphor for life is a relationship with another human being. 

 

When the relationship provides adversity, if you truly love that person unconditionally without adversity is temporary, but your love is eternal. So, if my wife and I get a disagreement, it doesn’t change that I love her and it doesn’t even change that I love her in that moment. My love for her is unconditional. I don’t set it aside and go, “Well, you’re in a bad mood right now or you’re being mean to me so I’m going to set the love over here on the shelf and I’ll love you again when you calm down. I’ll love you when you’re nice to me again.” No, that’s not how unconditional love works for another person and it’s not how unconditional love should work for your life. Love your life as it is just like you love yourself as you are, just like you love another person as they are, and if there are things about yourself or things about your life or things about another person that you don’t like in the moment, it’s okay to voice that. It’s okay to express that. It’s okay to feel that. It’s okay to take actions to change your behavior so that those things that you don’t necessarily like in your life, in your relationships, about yourself you can improve on those things, but from a place of love, not a place of fear or scarcity or disdain or hate, or any of the above. 

 

And then the third level that I would say is love of others, love of others, and I would invite you to love all people unconditionally as they are, realize that if you would live their life, and I’ve done entire podcast episodes on this in the past about judging people why we have no bearing to judge another person because had we lived their life, there’s a very good chance that we be exactly the same. Someone that does something to you that is mean, that is evil, that is hateful, that is abusive, you know, and you judge, “Oh, how dare they. They’re evil. They’re hateful. They’re abusive. I a hate that person. I don’t like that person. I despise that person.” But if you had lived their life and been raised by their parents and have the same potentially negative influences in your life, you might be exactly the same. 

 

So, just like with your spouse or your significant other, you might not like a person’s actions, but I invite you to love that person. I invite you to love all people unconditionally. I love as weird, as this may sound, I love the drunk driver that hit me at 80 miles an hour and almost killed me or did kill me for six minutes when I was 20, and that’s why when I went to the courtroom. My request for his sentence wasn’t one of condemnation, of anger, of resentment, of hate. It was one of love that the judge wanted to throw the book at him, and my request was I don’t see how him serving extended time behind bars away from his wife and children because of a stupid mistake that he made one night having a few beers, I don’t know that that is the best of service to the planet to society. 

 

So, my request was that he spend instead of three years in prison that he spend six months in prison, enough time to reflect and think because I thought there was value in that, but my real request like the most important part of the request was I would ask judge that the remaining two-and-a-half years of the sentence that you’re proposing, the three years in prison sentence, I would ask that the first six months are in prison so he has time to reflect and to feel that pain of the decision he made so he won’t make it again hopefully. I mean, obviously, you can’t control that. But the next two half years, I asked that he would be required to share his story in high schools and/or colleges but I was asking for high schools and the lessons that he learned kind of like anti-drinking and driving. That’s going to help a lot of people. If that even saves one person’s life that to me was a better use than him just sitting the next two-and-a-half years in prison. 

 

So, anyway, the point is that someone that you could easily hate and go, “You almost killed me. You broke 11 of my bones. I have permanent brain damage because of you. My life is potentially ruined.” At the time I didn’t know what the future held but all that would’ve done is cause a lot of pain inside of me and cloud my judgment for what the best outcome would be in the situation. And then obviously, who knows what the best outcome is? I mean, there’s no way to predict the future but again coming from a place of love. So, I just use that as another example of extreme where someone that almost killed me or that did kill me, I still love that person. For me and this, I don’t mean to get too hippie or woo-woo or whatever, but I love all people. To me, we are a family. The human race is a family. I don’t care what color someone is or what nationality or what language they speak or where they grew up. To me, we are all part of the human family and in the same way that I love every member of my family and some more than others. I’m just kidding. I like some more than others. 

 

Every member of my family, I love every member of the human family. And yes, that’s why I love you like when I say at the end of the podcast, “I love you,” like I mean that very sincerely and I’ll tell you, living a life, when you live your life’s purpose life that you’re filled with joy, you’re filled with love, and consider that when you’re experiencing love whether it’s love of yourself, love of your life, loving others or anywhere that the mesh of all of those just living from a place of love, loving every moment even though it’s not perfect and some are painful, consider that when you’re experiencing love, you are living your life’s purpose and consider the flipside that when we are caught up in the pursuit of anything, money, success even making an impact, even in the pursuit of love, when you are caught up in the pursuit of anything, you’re distracted from living your life’s purpose because it’s already inside you. It’s already available to you. It’s simply a matter of being present to that. It’s a matter of shifting your mindset and it may be easier said than done. The less love you’ve lived with. 

 

I don’t expect you to listen to this podcast. Snap your fingers and all of a sudden, you’re, “Wow. I love myself so much and I love others unconditionally and I love my crappy life right now.” No, it’s not a snap of the fingers thing. It’s a listen to this podcast over and over and over as many times as you need to, read the transcription which is at HalElrod.com and whatever episode this is number 283 I think, 284, something like that. Just go to the 280s and this is one of the early 280 episodes. I don’t know. I’m not looking at that exact number now, but yeah this is something that for me has taken a lot of time and I’ve reread the book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It and I’ve done his practice where you look in the mirror, you say, “I love myself. I love myself. I love myself. I love myself,” and it feels super weird and you don’t actually believe it. You’re like, “I don’t love myself. I don’t even like myself,” but you got to read the book, but you say it over and over and over again until you eventually it starts to feel normal. That’s the first step is so that once you do anything over and over again, that doesn’t feel normal. It eventually just becomes a norm. 

 

So, that’s the first step and then it actually starts to seep in and you start to actually believe it and then go a step further, I will give you one other really important tip is add the why. I love myself because I’ve overcome a lot of crap and I’m still here. I love myself because I’m doing the best I can. I’m really trying. I love myself because I’m stepping up and helping the people in my life that matter most to me. I love myself because I’m putting good. I’m making these improvements. I love myself because damn it I’m telling myself I love myself and that is a big improvement. By the way, when I share this at the Quantum Leap Mastermind, I had a friend and member of Quantum Leap Mastermind, Keith Battle. And, Keith, I should ask you if I could share this but knowing we were close I think you’re okay with this, but he came to me afterwards. He goes, “Hal, I’m 53 years old and I’ve never told myself I love myself.” He said, “I never even thought about it,” but he did it. He looked in the mirror he said the night before and he told himself many times and he said, “You know what, this is a huge upgrade in my life.” I’m putting words in his mouth. Those aren’t his exact words. 

 

But, yeah, many of us, all of us, this is I believe this is the core. When you love yourself and then you love your life because your life is an extension of yourself, that’s the purpose. That’s what it’s all about. That’s what we’re working towards but we already have it. It’s just a matter of us being present to it. So, last, I want to leave you with the lesson. Realize that what you ultimately want and what most people spend their entire lives searching for, you already have and thus it is available to you always and it is love. 

 

Hal: Goal achievers, members of the Miracle Morning Community, friends, family, the human family, I love you, I appreciate you more than you know. Hopefully, you understand more why I end the podcast by letting you know I love and appreciate you more than you know. Hopefully, now you know a little bit more about why I sincerely love you and appreciate you. I am grateful for you. Thank you for your time, your energy, your attention. I don’t take it lightly and my hope from this episode is that you will begin the journey. Not that you’re going to, again, snap your fingers and be there, but that you’ll begin the journey of loving yourself unconditionally, loving your life unconditionally, and loving other people unconditionally, truly, madly, deeply. I love you. I’ll talk to you next week. 


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